Today was the day that the term marriage was redefined. Whether you agree with the decision or not, the institution of marriage is on an examination table. A whole collection of people will finally get to experience the challenges & heartaches of marriage. On some level.
Ironically, there is an entire generation that will simultaneously rally behind marriage equality but are wrestling with commitment. The term “prolonged adolescence” means that young adults are waiting longer than ever to finish college, move out of their parents’ homes, and get married. Perpetual bachelorhood is romanticized over romance itself. It seems to me that there is more warring against traditional marriage besides the recent declaration.
But I’ve been thinking….current culture reveals so much evidence that not only are most 20 somethings not choosing to get married, but they aren’t even prepared for the commitment. And not only that, but they aren’t attempting to prepare themselves. I can’t speak on this without having the experience to back it up. I wasn’t married at 22. I made a ton of mistakes.
…so, I’m not at all pointing any fingers here…
Anywho. Here’s the list I came up with of signs that you are too young minded to handle a long term commitment. Feel free to comment/add/minus any of these….
1. You cannot take constructive criticism with humility.
2. You haven’t the foggiest idea of where you’d like to be in 5 years.
3. Your ideals/beliefs change depending on who you’re around.
4. You have multiple personal electronics which their cost add up into the $1000s but you can’t seem to save for a car.
5. You cannot make a full meal on your own (including a starch, a meat, a vegetable, and maybe dessert).
6. You stink at having roommates or always choose to live alone.
7. When out with friends, you can’t (at least once) pick out the restaurant.
8. Your FB timeline is filled with passive aggressive/attention seeking posts.
9. Your previous relationships ended due to the same, exact reason. Doesn’t matter which one, but they are all identical.
10. You believe its the opposite sex’s fault you aren’t in a relationship.
11. You spend most of your time looking for someone, rather than becoming someone.
12. If you’re female, you still say the following: “I have more guy friends than girls. I just don’t get along with girls.”
12b. If you’re a male, you still use derogatory terms for women (e.g. thot, etc.).
13. You either feel like marriage is a) a prison sentence or b) your salvation.